(and other lies I tell myself)
By Steph G.
When I started writing this post, I was going to post a few ideas on how you can style a headband for a casual hairstyle. Then…I wrote the title and it turned into something else completely.
Let me tell you a story…
Once upon a time, I was on a walk with someone and we passed a tree. It was gnarly and SO. COOL. I looked at it and the first words that flew out of my mouth were “Wow! That’s awesome! Don’t you wanna climb it?!”
Well, the person I was walking with looked at me like I was absolutely insane, and said, “Not at all. Don’t you think we’re a little old for that?” I immediately deflated and said, “Yeah, I guess we are.”
And we kept walking.
All these years later, I look back and realize I said the wrong thing. Shouldn’t it be a gut instinct to hold on to that childish ability to play? And wonder? And explore? At what age do we lose it? And once it’s gone, can we get it back?
It’s so easy to be swept up in all of the adult things…. Bills, laundry, dishes, taking kids to different activities, doctor’s appointments, tasks you need to finish for work, TAXES, remembering to change the furnace filter, packing for trips (because when you have kids, they’re not vacations anymore—they’re trips)….and then you’re just. so. tired. And your back hurts. And a glass of wine while falling asleep on the couch to that episode of Grey’s Anatomy (which you’ve seen five times) SOUNDS like the best possible evening you can imagine.
We strive to be seen as anything but “immature”. So we push ourselves to excel at everything, to be better – be MORE – be the BEST. Somewhere along the way, the joy becomes…lost.
There are a few remedies I’ve been able to find that help me regain the happiest, most child-like parts of myself when I realize I’ve misplaced them…
Belly Laugh daily. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Laughing keeps you tethered to the earth. You can’t drift listlessly through your life if you have wonderfully funny people surrounding you and reminding you that one of the best parts of living is letting go.
Remind yourself: You are not so grown-up and important that you cannot make fun of yourself. You’re going to make mistakes. Try to laugh at them! When my daughter falls down, we don’t sit and wallow in it. We say “whoops!”, giggle, and move on. How easy is it to fall into a discouraging attitude, where every mistake we make (big or small) is met with our inner voice telling us that, once again, we’ve messed up. We’ve forgotten. We’re not good enough. Laughing helps. Laugh at your mistakes. Even if you have to force it at first!
Take some time to do the things that made you happy when you were a kid: Climb the tree! Color in the coloring book! Race with someone just for fun! WEAR THE PRETTY HEADBAND FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!
I challenge you to think about the things that made you happy when you were a kid. Do you still do any of them? Try one this week and see how it makes you feel. If anyone needs me, I’ll be wearing my headband and coloring in my coloring book.